Mama guilt. I think it’s fair to say that any mama has felt some type of guilt. We’re pulled in so many directions. However often we’re going back and forth between doing whatever we possibly can for our children to trying to have our own sense of identity besides the title of Mom/Ma/Mama.
This week the Mighty Mamas were asked: How do you deal with or keep mama guilt in check?
This is something I’m still trying to figure out and learning to not hold on to. I sometimes see the mama guilt as an extension of the love I feel for my kids. I love them so much that more often than not I put them first. I remind myself that in order to be the best possible mama for my children I need to take care of myself too. Remembering that there needs to be a balance of Mama, wife, and self time is necessary.
This has been incredibly crucial for me while dealing with PPD. I often hate taking time away from my kids to focus on therapy. At the same time I know that this is what I need to do not only for myself but my boys too. I only have a few years under my belt as a Mama, so I feel like I’m just beginning still trying to get my bearings on things.
Sometimes not everything gets done like the chores. I’ve learned that it’s okay. Sometimes I feel unhappy with how I could change how I handled something months before. I’ve learned that motherhood is a learning process and it’s okay. Sometimes I feel bad for wanting time to myself away from the kids. I’ve learned, this is more than okay and is necessary.
How do you try to keep the mama guilt in check?
Be sure to check out what the other Mighty Mamas have to say on the Little & Mighty blog and share your thoughts there too!